Twice this past week, I’ve been asked about our July 4 weekend plans and each time, I felt a bit awkward before responding we had none. The feeling of awkwardness is more uncharacteristic than any worry of not having plans, because plans are easy to make if I’m interested, or prodded by those who are challenged in this area which is most often the case.
The feeling of awkwardness makes no sense.
It’s been forever since we’ve made a big hoo-haw over July 4th. Having a child with a birthday on the 2nd has put the focus more on that for 18 years, and this year he’s at school, so we’re without that as well to have an excuse to party. My extended family feels a bit strung about the country right now, my older boys always seem to work on busy holidays, and my husband’s family is in need of a cheerleader to rally them into one big get together for these occasions.
Before you have any thought of my gearing up for an all out whine, you have to know I’m the last person to feel badly about not having plans, which gets me back to the awkwardness. I don’t get it. But I’ve written a list for my husband of what we might do this holiday weekend because he loves having plans for any reason whatsoever. Call him the original Party Man.
Party Man’s Fourth of July Weekend To-Do List:
- Take the beach umbrella & book/iPad/beverage/munchies to the water either this afternoon, tomorrow afternoon, or Sunday afternoon. (Check — Friday evening)
- Shopping. There are lots of great sales on this kind of weekend, and maybe we can find a killer deal on something. You know, because you always need something, right? (Party Man went by himself Saturday. Check.)
- Picnic dinner (packed in the picnic bag we never use) somewhere for the 4th. Choose a spot we’ve never been depending on where the fireworks are — like the Embarcadero or something. We could walk to the Cove again which would be fine with me. Either pack the picnic bag, or pick a place in town to eat, then walk to see fireworks. (Looks like an impromptu BBQ with family on the 4th. Check.)
- You could rent a beach cruiser and I could finally use the bike Mom gave me to cruise all the way around Mission Bay from Crown Point Drive at the end. I need to figure out how to get that bike in my car anyhoo. (Does renting a sailboat count? Saturday with friends. Check.)
- Do the “make like a tourismo thing” on Coronado, in Encinitas, Ocean Beach, or you name it which means “goose necking” in the shops, having lunch, and enjoying the sunshine.
- Choose a place tonight and go on an impromptu road trip up the coast like Malibu or something. Stay one night. Nothing fancy. So, Saturday and Sunday. It would be fun! (Not — Catsitting my brother’s cat)
- Help me figure out how to build a fence for the patio, because I’m pretty sure I can do it. Maybe. (Check — consulted with someone who had good ideas)
- Choose a place in San Diego — like downtown — so I can walk around and take photos. Balboa Park would even be okay. You can hold the camera stuff. (Does Mission Bay count? Saturday with friends. Check.)
- Want to see the Padres? Not high on my list, but relaxing. I like the ball park. (Not — they’re in Seattle this weekend.)
- Walk to the boardwalk when the holiday is in full gear just to gawk at all the crazy beach people.
This is what you get to do when your kids are grown and there are no invitations. Make your own party. Freeing, to some extent, and certainly nothing to feel awkward about. Just different. We’re not very good at it yet, but we’re working on it. No sooner had I sent this list to him than he remembered Tour de France begins tomorrow. Nice.
Because a summer holiday weekend calls for ice cream at some point, I say make it a smoothie instead — or an ice cream smoothie pie. This one isn’t complicated, but does take a bit of planning ahead.
Happy Independence Day!